Suspenders of Certainty

Suspenders of Certainty

My Grandpa Francis Cloud Schellinger used to talk about people who wore a belt and suspenders at the same time.  He figured they did this to be double safe and insure their pants had absolutely no chance of falling down.  I think my grandpa found these...
Success In Your Own Eyes

Success In Your Own Eyes

What will make you a successful human being?  What will make you a successful human being in your own eyes, in your own heart, in your own mind?    Notice I said in your eyes, not in the eyes of other people, not in the eyes of your parents, not in...
Patience with Heartache

Patience with Heartache

If I’m calculating correctly, the spring of my 7th grade year was 1989.  That was the year I attempted to take my own life because I was utterly distraught about having a disability, my best friend and grandma having died a few years before, and the world news...
There’s No Going Back

There’s No Going Back

Have you ever had the notion that despite all your efforts, you always wind up back at square one? I know I do. But how would this be so? Let’s say you count from 1 to 99, as you say each number, they sound different, they look different and they even feel...
Choosing What to Play

Choosing What to Play

Let me start this by making a public apology…  To my fourth grade music teacher, classmates, my parents and anyone else whose ears had to suffer through my half-hearted attempts at playing the recorder, There’s no good reason you should have had to endure...
If Only

If Only

“If only I had more hours in a day.” “If only there were an extra day in the week.” “If only I wasn’t so slow.” For years I told myself things like this.  I imagine you might have too. Yes, they are just words, short simple sentences, but watch out if they become...
Just Another Day

Just Another Day

Have you noticed how New Year’s resolutions would be so much simpler to keep if life didn’t have the super annoying habit of getting in the way?   I mean, on any given day there are countless distractions in our lives, from devastating fires in Los...
NOT a  Destination

NOT a  Destination

Getting stuck in apology mode and marinating in guilt over a mistake is not typically a productive way forward.  I know, I’ve gone down this rutted, worn, treacherous dirt road countless times. I know this.  Yet one morning fairly recently, I found myself tempted...
A Subtle Alarm

A Subtle Alarm

Certain health scares come into our lives as glaringly blaring as a car alarm going off outside the bedroom window at 3 AM!!!  Others can be much more subtle.  Quiet enough to easily ignore.  A few months back, I had my blood pressure taken and it was much higher than...
Paradoxical Keys to Happiness

Paradoxical Keys to Happiness

Is it possible that the risks we take and the challenges we overcome might hold keys to our happiness?  Contemplate with me here, do you find you’re happiest when you are busy trying to figure something out, or when your day is pretty predictable and seems much...