Have you, like me, found a painful amount of truth to the saying, “We are our own worst critic?”

I have come to define this “worst critic” part of myself as The Perfectionist Voice.  As I imagine most of us do, I hear this Perfectionist Voice countless times each and every, single day.  In fact, The Perfectionist Voice is precisely what I’m hearing as I’m writing this blog on developing a gentler relationship with The Perfectionist Voice.  Isn’t that ironic?

At one point in my life, I thought that listening to The Perfectionistic Voice, taking it to heart, and doing exactly what it told me to do was my only option.  Though, I soon discovered it was torturous believing I was stuck with only a single option. I felt trapped in thoughts that were constantly tearing me down and trapped in believing this view of myself was true.

I’ve come to realize that if I let it, my Perfectionist Voice will gleefully stand between me and the life I most want. Thus, I have tried every trick in the book to banish The Perfectionist Voice from my mind. But you know what?  It always keeps coming back, just like a boomerang.

I grew sick and tired of this boomerang hitting me in the noggin every time it made a return trip, so over the course of the last ten years I shifted my focus to developing a healthier, gentler relationship with my Perfectionist Voice, and I am confident you can too!


Here are 4 things to consider as you develop a kinder relationship with your own Perfectionist Voice:


  1. The Perfectionist Voice is always going to be a part of you and your life.

  2. Rather than trying to eliminate it, simply listen to it, love on it, acknowledge it.  (Note- this is simple but not always easy)

  3. If The Perfectionist Voice has any valuable input, take the wisdom.  Once you have learned what you can from it, thank it for sharing.

  4. Gently focus on the direction you want to go.  Think of The Perfectionist Voice like a channel on your TV.  This channel may always be there but you don’t have listen with rapt attention and do everything the channel tells you to do.


One of my goals is to speak to millions of people in my lifetime, to let each person know that there is an alternative to suffering with the cruelness of their own Perfectionist Voice. In order to realize this goal, I am presented with the opportunity to cultivate a kinder relationship with my own Perfectionist Voice.

The Perfectionist Voice will always be present. However, as we cultivate this gentler relationship with it, we empower ourselves in new ways that remove the tethers and limitations it places upon us.


What would developing a kinder relationship with your Perfectionistic Voice make possible?




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